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The New Rules of Online Dating

Online dating has been around for a long time now, and the rules of online dating have changed as technology has changed. If it’s been awhile since you were actively online dating, these are the updated rules of online dating that you need to know:

Don’t Friend A Date Right Away

You might be tempted to add the first person you meet at a dating site. They might try to add you as a friend on social media right away. Don’t do it. If you just started interacting with them you don’t know enough about them yet to give them access to your personal information like where you work or who your friends and family are. Even though you may feel like you have a strong connection right away they are still a stranger to you so don’t take the chance. Adding them to fast an also make it very awkward if you decide not to take the relationship any further and have to unfriend them. Wait until you have been dating for at least a month before adding anyone from a dating site as a friend on social media.

Do Check Out Potential Dates Before Meeting Them

In this day and age almost everyone has some kind of online presence. Always Google your date to see what you can find out about them ahead of time. And don’t feel bad about running a background check on someone before you go out with them. There are thousands of catfish out there pretending to be someone they aren’t and you have every right to make sure that your date is who they say they are before meeting them in person.

Don’t Ghost

If you meet someone off of a dating site and you don’t feel a connection with them tell them that so that they don’t waste time and energy wondering if you’re interested. Have the courtesy to send them an email or a text explaining that you just don’t feel a connection and wish them well finding someone else. Then you can block their email address or phone number if you want to avoid any further contact but you should give them the respect of making it clear that you’re not interested before moving on. It can be uncomfortable to tell someone that you didn’t feel a romantic connection with them but if you do it in a friendly and respectful way it doesn’t have to be an awful experience.

Do Keep Things In Perspective

When you are online dating sometimes you can caught up in expecting someone that you’re chatting with to answer you right away all the time. But if your text goes unanswered for a few hours or you don’t get an email until a day or two later don’t panic. Remember that not everyone is connected to their phones, their email, or their social media all the time.

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How To Share Family Photos On Social Media Without Annoying All Your Friends

No one wants to be that person who overshares on social media. The person who posts so many photos of their kids and their family time that people start to get annoyed. There’s definitely a point of over saturation when you share family photos. It can start to look like you’re bragging about your family rather than just sharing fun photos with your friends. New parents are notorious for going overboard with sharing way too many photos of their new baby. I understand how exciting it can be to be a new parent, but remember not everyone feels the same way you do. There are some things that you can do to only share the photos you love with the people who want to see them. This way you won’t irritate everyone else. Here are my suggestions for social media posting:

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One of the best ways to post on social media without annoying all of your online friends is to upload the photos to albums and not to your feed. This is great because the people who want to see the photos can go look through the album and the people who don’t want to be forced to look at 20 or more photos of your new baby sleeping, your new puppy, or your kids standing in a pumpkin patch don’t have to. You can also make certain albums only available to particular friends so that you don’t need to worry about anyone stealing your photos. You can share that album of 100 photos of your child learning to walk with your parents and no one else. Or you can share photos of your child’s first day at school just with your best friend.

Curate Your Photos

You don’t need to upload 40 photos of your child’s eating to get the point across that it was  hilarious to watch your child try to eat solid food. You don’t need to upload 50 photos of your son’s first baseball game to show how much he enjoyed it. Pick one or two of the best photos that show the emotion of the event and upload those. Just those photos. One or two photos per event and maybe a video if there is something significant. Give your friends and family the highlight reel instead of the play by play. That way you can still post photos without losing friends. Your friends and family will appreciate being able to see just the highlights of your trip to Florida and not every single photo that you took on the trip.

Control Your Children’s Social Media Postings

Now, it might not just be you who is over posting on social media causing you to loose friends.  Make sure your children are being safe on social media and that you can see what they are doing online. You never know what kids could be looking at and sharing online these days. Be safe and check out safeguarde.com to make sure your child is sharing photos correctly.

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